A bit in a horse’s mouth can control a horse – even one that weighs that 1000 pounds! A tiny rudder sets the course of a ship – no matter how big! In the same way – our tongues affect the entire course of our lives.
“So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire!” James 3:5 NASB
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21 NASB
Scripture is so clear about this concept; and yet, sometimes its a struggle to apply it to our lives. Also, sometimes, the way people explain it – it comes across as if they want you to deny reality – to pretend you don’t have pain or problems.
Denial doesn’t work. And on top of that, we are to bring all of our problems to the Lord in prayer so God never told us to pretend that we don’t have trouble.
Here’s what DOES work: paying attention to how we speak about our current situations.
I have a question for you: what does your self-talk sound like? If you can’t find your keys because you forgot where you put them when you came home because at the same time you were coming in the house, you had the phone ringing, kids calling and a million other things tugging at you? What do you say to yourself? Do you say, “I’m always SO forgetful!” or “I’m such an idiot!”
Look, its a frustrating situation to be in; however we have to tell the truth about the situation. And the truth includes what God says about you. Something may have slipped your mind momentarily but God does not define you by your forgetfulness when you’re stressed. Instead you could say, “I am frustrated because I can’t find my keys!” or even better – you could say to yourself (and be sure to follow through), “I’m going to start having a set place to put my keys every day so that this won’t happen again.”
This is a simple example; but it still is the type of thing that can produce big results. Don’t berate yourself or others – that never helps stress anyways. Choose words that speak to allowing yourself to process and move on from negative emotions. Choose words that speak to how you want your life to be.
God loves you. His wisdom is here for you to be able to live a better life. Not every miracle involves a burning bush and a voice booming from above. Some miracles are a full week of not having to search for keys and being able to start your day in a less stressed state of mind. And then since you’re less stressed, you have more patience and sweetness to give to others. The miracles that result from peacefulness and patience are available to all of us. Let’s go get them!