Some Things Will Never Change

A very special guest post from my good friend Leigh Ann from Intentional by Grace. I am so blessed to know her as a friend and am thrilled she is writing for CMB! Please welcome her warmly!

The sink fills, steam rising, bubbles forming. Hands, once perfectly manicured, hide beneath the yellow gloves that protects from endless encounters with soap and water. Her mind wanders, spins, like a Ferris wheel. To-do lists swirl round and round in the mind once organized and cohesive, knowing what needed to be done at each given moment. The sun sets on the horizon. The dog pants at the back door waiting for dinner. A child cries tears of exhaustion. A key turns in the lock, the husband enters from a long day of meetings and spreadsheets. Her eyes close. She sighs and breathes deep.

You see, this is my life – the life I always dreamed of. Doubtful my imaginings held this moment, the moment of exhaustion, tears, and chaos, but it did hold the longings to be a wife to the man of my prayers standing barefoot in her kitchen with a baby tugging on her apron strings. I’ve always wanted this moment, and now that I have it, I have to choose to embrace it because some days are hard … some seasons are hard. However, seasons change, but there are three things that will never change – our priorities.

As I have prayed through the seasons of change, the Lord impressed on my heart three priorities, and the order in which they should be found regardless of my circumstances.

1. Love God.

When meditating on what it means to love God as my first priority, I came across Psalm 63:1:

“O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.”

Oftentimes, my morning meeting with the Lord – if there is one – becomes just another thing to check off my to-do list. I seek, but not earnestly. I drink, but do not thirst. I am comfortably fed and watered; therefore, I fail to realize that, in fact, I am not – I am desperate for God.

Yet, David sought God earnestly and thirsted as if his very life depended on it. God must be first priority – always.

2. Love our Husbands.

In modern culture, this may come as a shock, but our husbands are to be our second priority even with little ones under our feet.

Wait a minute, Leigh Ann. You mean, our helpless children are not a greater priority than our husbands? Can’t our husbands care for themselves?

Well, yes, but God tells us in Genesis that it is not good for our husbands to be alone – caring for himself. He needs a helper, and that helper is me. I’m perfectly fitted to him. I was taken from his side and fashioned in the likeness of God for my husband’s good. I wasn’t taken from my son’s side and fashioned just for him.

This is hard, but it is non-negotiable. My husband comes before my son. My husband is second priority – always.

3. Love our Children.

If motherhood was our primary calling, we would have some incredibly selfish children on our hands. To some extent, our culture gives us a perfect example of what it looks like to make our children our number one priority. We have only to walk into the nearest super market and walk down the cereal aisle to see this lived out.

Our children are demanding, their needs ever-present before us. When we get busy, it is easy to go around putting out fires. It is no secret that children scream far louder than our husbands and even God who is often said to have “a still small voice.” Therefore, we can get caught up in caring for our children’s demands while allowing our priorities to get out of whack. Our children are our third priority – always.

So I turn from the sink, hands dripping with sauce and suds. My eyes meet the man of my prayers and we smile. We look. The baby crawls to his daddy and tugs on his pant leg. My apron string hangs. We are home. All is right with this world. Praise God for family. Praise God for His word. Praise God for this moment.

What about you? Do you struggle to keep God’s priorities for your life?

Leigh Ann’s life goal is to create a home where it is impossible to not think about God. At Intentional By Grace, she blogs about her journey of intentional living in order to make this goal a reality.

She is the wife of three years to the man of her prayers, Mark, and mama to a loveable little boy, Samuel. She takes joy in spending her days creating memorable moments with her husband, conducting kitchen experiments, researching every natural alternative known to man, and making her little boy laugh. She does it all by the grace of God.


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  1. Thanks for me post over here today, Nikki! :)

  2. Anonymous says:

    #2 is sometimes hard to keep in the right order, above #3, just b/c those little boogers can be much more demanding than him! But all the relationships go more smoothly when that priority is held in place; something I need to work at remembering.

    • I’m right there with you, Anne! That’s why I even had something to write about. ha! Since Mark rarely (if ever) raises his voice, and Sam does so multiple times a day, it’s easy to get into “put out fire” mode. It takes A LOT of work to keep these priorities where they need to be.

  3. Erin Stephens says:

    Excellent reminder and in the perfect timing :)

  4. I really needed this today (don’t you love how God does that?!!). Thank you!


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