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Being a work at home mom presents many challenges. It’s a blessing most definitely, being able to care for my toddler while earning a little income on the side from the comforts of my own home, but it takes a lot of intentionality and discipline to make it work.
When people find out that I stay home full time caring for an almost two year old, co-own an online Women’s ministry, run multiple websites, write eBooks, and still manage to have any sort of social life they inevitably ask me, “How do you do it all?”
Well, duh! I don’t, but what I do manage to get done I manage by the grace of God, no doubt! Let me share some nuggets of advice that I think will help you manage being a work at home mom.
Ban the guilt
Guilt is evil and completely of the Devil. It can suck your joy right out of you faster than a kid with chocolate milk. Guilt is not your friend.
What is your friend is faith. Have you sought the Lord with all your heart regarding being a work at home mom? Are you convinced this is His will for you? Then, stop feeling guilty about being a working mom.
I’m here to tell you, it is okay to be a work at home mom. What is not okay is when you’re a working mom and the Lord is telling you not to be and you know it (or you’re working and never sought His will in the first place). So test the guilt. Is it conviction or condemnation? If it’s the latter, it has no place in your life or in your thoughts.
Be intentional with your time by keeping strict office hours. Decide when you’re going to work, how much you’re going to work, and where you’re going to work. Decide what you’re willing to sacrifice and decide what your non-negotiables are; then, stick to it.
In her book, How to Have Your Cake and Eat it Too, Mandi Ehman explains:
Intentionality is the number one thing you can do to prevent and fight mommy guilt. It means being intentional about the hours you work, the things you’re willing to sacrifice – and those that you’re not – how you will draw a hedge around your family life in the face of business demands, and more.
When you’ve decided these things ahead of time, you don’t have to feel guilty because you know why you’re doing what you’re doing. You’ve thought through the sacrifices involved and decided they’re worth it.
For me, I’ve decided to forgo participating in our local MOPS program. I battled with this decision, and even managed to get myself worked up into some sleepless nights. But in the end, I decided I’d much rather spend my time taking music classes with my toddler than spending time making crafts with other mommies. I couldn’t do both. I had to choose.
Don’t play the balancing act
I once asked a fellow mom and writer how she finds time to write, manage her business, and care for her children. What she replied has never left my mind.
Don’t try to find balance with your work and home. Seek God in all things, and He will direct your steps.
This means that some weeks my work is going to get more of me than my family. Other weeks this means my family will get more of me than my work. But if you’ve shed the guilt, and you know that you have been called to work from home and you’re being intentional with your time, then you can seek God for your priorities each day.
This is scary advice, isn’t it? It’s so easy to let work take over your life, or make excuses why you can’t work because of family matters. But, mama, we must lean hard into Jesus and open our hearts to listen to the promptings of the Holy Spirit. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is the same power living within you! Don’t you think it can illuminate the workings of your schedule? I do. Stop trying to find balance, and just seek the Lord for your schedule. <–Tweet This!
You’re not going to get it all right every time. You’re going to feel guilty. You’re going to totally screw up your office hours. You’re going to miss having play dates more often. You’re going to question a million times if you’re doing the right thing. But friend, you must accept grace in these moments. Matthew 5:3 says, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
Want to know what “poor in spirit” means? Poor in spirit simply defines those who know they need God. <–Tweet This!
That’s it. Just know you need God, mama. Accept His grace, which is fully sufficient for all of your responsibilities and for your calling as a work at home mama.
What have you found to be most helpful in balancing work life and home life?
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